“Man was born to live with his fellow human beings. Separate him, isolate him, his character will go bad, a thousand ridiculous affects will invade his heart, extravagant thoughts will germinate in his brain, like thorns in an uncultivated land.”
—Suzanne Simon from MEMOIRS OF A NUN (1796)
We are caught in an illusion of togetherness when we converse online. Days pass quickly as the all-mighty computer consumes are actions. It feels like we are not alone. Our conversations feel like true substitutes for real relationships. However, one thing is amiss: physicality. Humans are social creatures. Like all mammals, we need to be with one another to thrive. The isolation of the computer confuses the mind by fueling our time with compulsiveness and boredom.
How many times a day to we check our phones? Waiting, hoping for something to increase endorphins. However, the computer never really satisfies. It gives the gift of insatiability where there is never enough and the user is always wanting more. And in that period of wanting…life passes by.
Most mammals run in packs to assure safety and the ability to procreate the next generations. The togetherness is the reason for living: without it, the mammal would surely die. Human beings are not the elite. They are mammals too. Mammals who have forgotten their basic needs to function and thrive.
Every living organism on this earth is just trying to survive. That is how the world exists. Humans surpassed this mode and what was left became ingenuity, creativity, and insanity. The basis for neurosis dwells in the separation to which we agree to in our online relationships, in our comments as well as passing around propaganda as the truth. It is a possibility that we are destroying our species because we stepped out of the line of what was natural: staying with the pack, caring for one another and fighting for the existence of the whole rather than the individual.
As the years pass in the is the digital age, people’s hearts become crueler behind the computer. Unnecessary words are exchanged to sustain the level of serotonin that the computer offers. It is dangerous to depend on an external object to feed your soul. The danger lies in not really pondering what is within without comparing oneself to what is viewed on social media.
Creating social media was supposed to be a good idea. But it is has taken over the daily lives of humans. If we stop questioning the real world we are left in an imaginary maze of toxic overload, spread by each other, alone.
Take a minute to smell the air, watch the trees turn red and yellow and the temperatures drop. For a moment, look at who you live with as if they are more important than the fix you receive in the digital world. Just maybe, you may see life as it happens. We say life is short but we shorten every minute we spend interacting on social media rather than with each other in person. Humans were born to be together. I hope we do not lose sight of that through mundane distractions and arguing useless battles. All we have is today. Let us start now.
I have nine more years to prepare you for adulthood and the days seem to fly by so rapidly. There are so many things I want to teach you but life gets in the way. So lets start with that.
- Life gets in the way of all plans. That is why it important to take the right action instead of being concerned your plans will not unfold the way you want. We always get to where we need to be.
- Our society teaches us to to be fiercely independent and to be special. Special people are lonely. It is more important to find the similarities with others than to be different. You are who you are…you don’t have to try be anything else.
- Social media hurts people. It takes away our humanness and leads us to believe we are connected through a computer screen of false images and ideas. Mammals are social beings and they need to be actually around each other for fulfillment.
- Your parents are only human. They have faults an. flaws and can be selfish, too.
- What anyone says about you is none of your business. It is not personal. It is where that person is at in his or her lives. Try to be loving no matter what.
- Resentments only hurt you. Wishing bad things on other people creates hate within your body and damages your sense of well being.
- There are no shortcuts so do not even try.
- Dream big. Anything can be accomplished with hard work and sense of purpose.
- You will have your heart broken, Maybe several times. Keep loving anyway.
- You do not know everything. I think you may have learned that from me but knowing everything discourages learning and this life is full of wonder and different things to learn about.
- Be of service. It is the easiest way to find happiness when you stop thinking about yourself all the time.
- Travel the world but also find a place to become rooted. Traveling expands your mind but being rooted deepens your soul.
- Human kindness exists and champions over any tragedy. Love is all around you.
- You are hundred percent accountable for yourself. Victims do not succeed. And placing blame is useless.
- Humility is the gateway to freedom from the ego.
- Start where you are. Not where you want to be or think you should be. Figure out where you are and begin. This is the only way to overcome adversity.
- Keep your eyes open and look at everything coming your way. There is nothing you cannot handle if you continue to take the right actions and stay 100 percent accountable.
- You are entitled to nothing. You reap what you sow and this feeds your soul.
- Look people in the eye when you firmly shake their hands.
- Never be too certain. An open mind will bring you more answers than a mind that fully believes it its own convictions.
- Sink into yourself. You are far more likable by others if you simply show your flaws and be thoroughly honest.
- Engage in small talk at first. This is the way our culture gauges each other. I had to learn this the hard way. I hope you heed my advice.
- All things are temporary and that is okay. Accept the natural ebb and flow of life.
- Always ask for help if you need it. Those that love you want you to be honest. It is the best way to build connections and life long friends. And of course, always be willing to help the best that you can.
- What you put into your body creates who you are. Think carefully how you treat yourself and always attend to your basic needs.
- Having courage is being afraid and doing it anyway. Be brave and get through whatever is in front of you.
- Comparison is the thief of joy. And joy can happen at anytime if you are paying attention.
- Laugh and cry and feel and think. Experience everything you can in this lifetime. Life is not a dress rehearsal. You are already nine years into the one you started.
- Don’t trust the media.
- Know that I love you with all my heart and I will always be there for you. Never be afraid to share with me your mistakes, your feelings or hide who you are. I LOVE ALL OF YOU.
My heart and my mind are ruled by disappointment. I did not know this until a few day ago, but now that I do I feel a spiritual resurrection inside my body.
I must begin when I was the age 30 years old. I had a dream where I entered a halfway house and the whole room was wall to wall orange. All the furniture was a glowing 70’s orange and I heard on the radio a chorus of 1000’s of angels. Then I woke up.
In reality, the halfway house was called The House of Hope and I was actually trying to be accepted there due to my heavy alcoholism and the fact that I had lost everything. In such places that offer treatment and a place to live, a person must call daily to prove that they are committed to the program. And I called everyday. But there were no beds.
After a few days, I decided to walk in and personally meet the staff. Before I left, I turned to my friend and said I just want to see if it is orange. When I walked up to the gate, much to my surprise, two orange chairs were placed on the sidewalk outside the gate to give to the poor. For some people this may mean nothing, but it was the first bit of hope I had felt in many years.
Of course, the years passed and I always wondered if the color orange meant God or was it just a coincidence. I could not shake this question and the question continued to be unanswered. However, the other day I came across a post about chakras and I googled which chakra represented the color orange. It was the Sacral Chakra and this information delighted me while it never really gave me any answers.
The next night, my son could not sleep and I laid awake for most of the night: thinking and thinking as all good insomniacs do.
I began thinking about my mom and I realized I am not angry with her. I accept her for who she is. But I was extremely disappointed. I was disappointed that she left me at a young age. I was disappointed at the cruel actions she had taken against me over the years. And especially, I was disappointed that when I needed her most, she failed me and never apologized.
But it went further than that. I was disappointed that most of my family was deceased due to their own choices. I was disappointed at friends who hurt me. I was disappointed at the way the country is in a civil war over politics. I could go on and on.
However, what was important was the question of how I dealt with being disappointed. The answer was that I did not deal with it. I shut down. I would never let it show I was hurt. There was my wall! I had always wondered what my wall was exactly. I knew I had walls but I did not know what they were on any deep level.
So what happens when I repress my feelings? Overtime they begin to manifest somewhere else. Additionally, when I feel I have disappointed someone else I become triggered and spin out of control believing the person I disappointed feels as hurt as I do about even the slightest issue. This feeling of guilt also remains in my body.
And for once in my life, I felt all the repression being released from my body due to this awareness. Lightness began to encapsulate my soul at 3am in the morning. I felt relieved and grateful and I felt hope and love.
Of course I had no idea how to change this pattern that was so ingrained in me after all these years. I thought about calling up all the people that disappointed in some way, even if it was 25 years ago. That did not seem wise. I prayed God may remove this defect of character. I wondered if I just started being truthful when I was disappointed from this point on, my life would improve. I truly had no idea.
So….I looked up what chakra held disappointment. And there it was. The Orange Sacral Chakra. I couldn’t believe it. And my thoughts drifted back to how my repression manifested in my body. It did not take long to realize at my Sacral chakra line I have had three back surgeries, two hip replacements, a hysterectomy and a c-section. Hmmm. That seemed pretty significant.
Now I understood that disappointment made me stuck. But what was the opposite of disappointment? I really didn’t know. The answer was satisfaction. This idea of “satisfaction” was quite foreign to me. I always perceived things as going wrong. Go figure! My disappointment also contributed to feeling majorly depressed and becoming extreme anxious.
The unhealthy way to deal with it was addiction and not taking care of one’s self. BUT the way to satisfaction was self care and being rooted in creativity. I was pretty sure I can do that if I wanted to feel what satisfaction brings.
So I am writing this blog on this holy day, thinking about the color orange and God and how I can be creative and decided to share it with the world. The only way to be true to one self is through exposing my brokeness. And I plan on aligning with my truth any way I can.
Thank you for reading.
via Could it be ME?
As the dawn is growing nearer,
And the days begin to wane,
I saw the darkness in your eyes,
Not much of you remains.
There is no sweet satisfaction,
To see the pain that you endure,
I wonder if you know at all,
Our life was but a blur.
Your strength, I did admire,
You knew how to survive,
You made it through the toughest times,
Steadfast and alive.
But you did not fight for me,
You left in quite a haste,
I only see you walking away,
I never saw your face.
And the years passed by so quickly,
From being a child to where I am right now,
I thought we would have a chance,
To mend our love somehow.
Yet, you were very nasty,
Always something mean to say,
I treated you with respect,
Because I am that way.
I got your Christmas card this year,
With the business card inside,
Telling me to take care of things,
When you finally died.
And that is when it happened,
When I could finally see,
You horrible, heartless woman,
You missed out on me.
And all the pills I have swallowed,
All the drinks I drunk,
And all the drugs I have ingested throughout my life
Was to fill the heart you sunk.
God graced me with some clarity,
I could see the undertaking,
In front of me, I will rebuild,
The life from me you’ve taken.
Therefore the answer is simple,
I will not be your pawn,
You will have to find another soul,
To care for you after you have gone.
And when it is finally over,
The only pain I foresee,
For 40 years you made the choice,
To miss out on me.
Today I say goodbye to you,
My love is better suited,
To the wonderful people who have surrounded me,
And cheered and laughed and rooted.
You have no idea what you missed,
The person I’ve become,
I am loving and I am clever,
And the best is yet to come.
I leave you with one message,
I hope the end goes well,
I am not sure where you are going,
But judgment day is hell.
I love you as my mother,
How different it should have been,
But when you choose yourself above everyone else,
You are left with what is within.
And now I say goodbye,
It has to be this way,
I love myself too much,
Moving onward finally, finally today.